I first want to thank those of you who commented on last week’s post and added many thoughtful comments. If you haven’t read what others said, it is not too late. You can go the “comment” section under “Hard”ly True.
But this week I want to respond to a comment that you will not read there. It was added and then removed by the person (I assume a mother) who posted it, but I was able to see it before she took it down. The pain she felt in her heart made it difficult for her to even write and then she must have decided she should not put it out there.
I am writing mainly for her because I don’t have contact information and am hopeful she is staying with us to see this. She is grieving the loss of her son who died just a few months ago. She did not go into detail, but it was clear that right now life is not just hard, but it feels impossibly hard. Her words were: “I don't know how to comprehend this or see it from a biblical aspect at this time or ever.” She also wrote: “I guess I have left the church.”
Our dear sister, your feelings are real, and while I have not been right where you are, I know the feeling that life is too hard and that God seems to have allowed it to be too hard. When you have lived with God as your strength and foundation, that is now a tough place to be. Your world has been shaken.
Let me share two thoughts from Scripture. The first is Psalm 34:18: “The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” God understands when we are brokenhearted, and he feels with us when are crushed in spirit, but more than that, he cares and will help. If we are so brokenhearted we can make no sense of anything and so crushed that we are blaming him, he still cares and still comes.
The second is Psalm 73:26: “My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.” For years my takeaway from this is that when everything in me seems to fail, God still gives us the grace to hold on to him. And I have learned eventually he brings healing.
Our sister, right now no one of us can make sense of your loss or fully understand how crushed you feel, but holding on to God and being with his people is the right way to come through this and find meaning.
I would like to send you some little books that may help. You can write me a firstname.lastname@example.org.
Once again, we welcome others’ comments.